Sex is not just about body parts.

SJ – So Joshua, are spirits male and female?

Joshua – Your sex or rather your gender is not just about body parts. It is how you perceive the world, how you treat the world, and what you expect from the world. Unlike humans, spirits have no worries about physical body maintenance but they still have ‘gender’ maintenance.

SJ – Okay you had me at “your sex”. Go on…

Joshua – Physical attraction does not exist in the spirit world but we are still drawn to one another’s esprit. The consequences of your behavior on earth will glow like a neon sign in your spiritual energy globe. Everyone will know what relationship lessons you need to learn to grow wiser; and the ones you’re willing to teach. There will be volunteers galore willing to help you learn these lessons in your next life.

SJ – You make it sound like a dating pool. Besides how would we recognize each other once we’re reincarnated on earth?

Joshua – Soulmates are quite capable of finding each other. They will orchestrate all manner of events, travel miles to places unexpected to find the one who will help them grow spiritually.

SJ – Or make each other miserable? 

Joshua – How did you get so cynical, my sweet soul?

SJ – It’s a long story. Maybe I ignored the signs and just went for the looks.

Joshua – You know very well that you were never attracted to a man based only on his looks.

SJ – Of course, I don’t fall for every good looking guy that comes along but down here on the planet I have eyes. Never mind, I get what you’re saying. Next question: So why are we two genders?

Joshua – Try to imagine the world with only one sex.

SJ – Well for some that could be enticing but not for me.

Joshua – What would you learn about life if there was only one sex. For that matter what would you learn about yourself if you weren’t with someone so totally opposite from you trying to figure you out. Someone who keeps bouncing ‘yourself ‘ right back at you. A self that you have to look at and question. Because when you first projected your words onto this other human being who loves you, whatever you were saying made sense; whatever you were doing seemed like a good idea. Then he begged to differ or in other words you have some “splaining to do, Lucy”.

SJ – First of all I was never with a man who “begged to differ”.  It was more like “are you insane?” and a few other choice words. But I’ll admit I’ve had some “splaining” to do but mostly I’ve been the one demanding the explanation from some guy.  I might add, this seems to be the case with most couples. Frankly, I’ve never really been able to change any man’s behavior.

Joshua – But you kept trying didn’t you?

SJ – Your point?

Joshua – This loving one another inspite of your differences is what generates the positive energy that the Universe is desperate to accumulate. And it is your differences that bring about the soul lessons you are all on the planet to learn. Make no mistake, male and female, you absolutely need one another to continue human existence on earth.

SJ – I don’t think I’ve ever felt that blissful “soulmate” feeling with anyone or that “we’re gonna ride off into the sunset and live happily ever-after” feeling.

Joshua – Really?

SJ – You sound skeptical. Is it because I’m no “spring chicken”?

Joshua – You really need to find some new quotes. Who says that stuff anyway? So have you ever loved anyone who made you crazy, who “pushed your buttons”?

SJ – Now who’s using the corny quotes? The answer is yes. I’ve been driven crazy many times.

Joshua – Well then, you might just have met your soulmate.

SJ – Please tell me we can have more than one soulmate in one lifetime.

Joshua – Of course you can. But proceed with caution next time.

It’s all about Energy.

It’s All About Energy

SJ – So Joshua today we’ll just have a general conversation. You start, the forum is all yours:

Joshua – You are all just energy taking on form.

SJ – Are you God?

Joshua – I’m just a messenger come to give you news.

SJ – Soul news, I’m guessing.

Joshua – Of course. You are one soul, many heartbeats. The soul existed before the heart, and will exist after the heart stops beating. After a while the soul will have another heart. You are always the same soul traveling through time having different bodies and different life experiences. Some of your family you will have known before and some will be new but you are brought together to fullfill the destiny of each.

SJ – How can I help another fulfill his or her destiny?

Joshua – By example; by following your own calling; finding your own bliss. When other people see this they will follow suit. You are each a building block for your survival upon this earth and for your journey to bliss.

SJ – As you know, Joshua, we are flawed human beings.

Joshua – You are all created different and you are imperfect by design.

SJ – what?

Joshua – Perfection and sameness would not create an atmosphere of one. It is the struggle that teaches each of you the way to God, and mistake you not that is your reason for existance. Finding God is the reason for eveything that happens on this earth.

SJ – What’s your take on love and marriage.

Joshua – Because you love another soul you grow, and that is the purpose of love and marriage. Humanity cannot exist without male and female love but more importantly souls cannot survive without the existence of bodies. Man and woman. . .without each other you cannot attain the awesome experience of unity. So embrace your differences for they are not only your means for survival but a blessing from God.

SJ – So is this just a dress rehearsal for unity with God?

Joshua – It is in body form that your soul fulfill its mission.

SJ – Is our mission to get back to paradise or heaven?

Joshua – When you are truly a global village with every man his brother’s keeper, then and only then, will you find the bliss promised to you.

SJ – You mean we create are own bliss and return ourselves to paradise?

Joshua – You never left the Garden of Eden. You just can’t see it anymore. But it’s still here waiting for all of you to open your eyes.

SJ – Thank you Joshua, we’ll talk again soon.


The subject today is about ANGER!

SJ –I’m new to blogging but let me just say that I will do my best to faithfully enter words on my blog as they come to mind. My intention is to share wisdom garnered from my life; from my own soul memories and from my muse whom I have named Joshua.   Are we ready?

Joshua – So here is the truth I gave you many years ago and the one that sticks in your mind: You are all just energy taking on form. 

You are made up of millions of molecules that are moving constantly. I call it vibrational energy. This energy responds to your emotions and what your brain thinks your emotions should be.

SJ –Can our vibrations be changed by external forces?

Joshua – Music can change your emotions instantly; hear a sad song and you cry, hear a happy, upbeat song and your body starts to move with joy, angry songs can put you in a bad mood. If melodies, beats and lyrics coming from an outside source have this much power over you, think what you can do to control your own vibrations. This is a skill you can learn and is most useful when you feel a bout of rage coming on. It takes some practice but you can consciously change your mood and thus change your vibrations or change your vibrations and thus change your mood. It works both ways. If you practice this often enough you will find that you eventually will become slow to anger. Rage will no longer control your life. And won’t that feel good?

SJ –Sounds great but how do we do that?

Joshua – First by becoming aware that you are the only one in control of your emotions. Others may say or do things that feel like an attack but they can not force you to become angry. Usually they are not even aware of you because they are expressing something inside of them that has nothing to do with you. And you in turn are reacting from something that happened to you when you were two or fifteen years old or just that morning.

You can choose to not be angry. It’s as simple as that. You know how it feels to get angry don’t you? It looks like that thermometer with the red line crawling up the scale. It starts somewhere in your belly and grabs your heart. Your pulse races, you start breathing rapidly and your temperature rises until it feels like your brain is on fire and the more you think about why you’re angry, the angrier you get. Am I right? See I have not forgotten how that feels. Anger is a powerful emotion and it can become an addiction.

SJ – Are you calling anger an addiction?

Joshua – Yes, addictions are about managing or masking your pain and your fears. Addictions afford you the option of not facing and therefore taking control of your life. Anger comes because you are in pain and when you rage at someone you are not being reasonable. You are just spewing your pain onto someone else. And if they respond to you with their anger things escalate to . . .well you know the rest.

SJ – So do we deal with anger the way we do addictions?

Joshua – You got it. But I will admit anger is a tough addiction because it’s a soul addiction.

SJ – Aren’t all addictions soul addictions?

Joshua – Yes, but most addictions cause physical problems; problems that put you and others on the alert and get you moving to seek solutions. Anger is insidious.

SJ – What do you mean?

Joshua – Insidious because we have all lived with anger for so long we think that it’s normal and because the angry person gets enormous relief once he or she has spewed their inner poison onto someone else. Even when other people get wise and move away or leave them it’s rarely blamed on the core problem.

SJ – Explain?

Joshua – The angry person will blame the break up on the other person who is ‘stupid or psychotic or in love with someone else’ etc.

The truth is that someone trying to live with an angry person is short on options. They can stay and eventually face an emotional or physical breakdown or they can leave. They may choose the option of not responding to the angry person but when angry people can’t get that ‘gasoline poured on a fire’ response they are craving. . .they leave.

SJ – You mean they go and find someone else?

Joshua – Yes, they need a target for their rage. When their victim just walks away or does not respond they feel like they’re holding a ball full toxic waste with nowhere to throw it. And with no one willing to catch the ball it’s all going to have to go back inside.

SJ – And it they can’t get the response they need, it can escalate into violence?

Joshua – Well of course but that’s another lesson and I know you’re tired and you have a physical world to deal with today. So goodbye my sweet soul.

SJ – Goodbye Joshua and thanks for the words of wisdom.