Universal Consciousness

Front cover CMYKMarch 11, 2012


SJ – We haven’t posted anything in quite a while.

Joshua – I know do you want to?

SJ – Yes

Joshua – Souls carry emotions with them when they ascend and these emotions are released into the Universal Consciousness.

SJ – Universal Consciousness?

Joshua – You’re not just ‘whistling Dixie’ down there you know. You’re accumulating knowledge, information and above all energy that you release into the world stream of consciousness when your body dies. So it is important that each one of you take care about how you leave this planet and what you take with you.

SJ – You mean like peaceful vs. violent deaths?

Joshua – Yes

SJ – But we really don’t have control over that.

Joshua – Men do purposefully and consciously go to war; murder one another; act stupidly such as driving drunk etc. People might think twice if they were taught that their actions matter.

SJ – I think you mean our actions matter to the Universe? We all know that there are consequences for our actions.

Joshua – Energy goes round and round; it comes back.

SJ – Are we talking about karma again?

Joshua – No karma as we have stated before is with oneself about oneself. I’m talking about the energy that is released from every living thing, human or beast. Even a plant releases negative energy when it is picked or stepped on.

SJ – But we have to eat plants. I mean I’m already not eating animals.

Joshua – The eastern religions have it right when they live a mindful life and eat mindfully.

SJ – We say grace before each meal.

Joshua –  And you are therefore mindful of the bounty given to you by mother earth and this puts out positive energy. It is not an accident that the idea to give thanks entered someone’s head and was adopted by so many people.

SJ – So we cancel the negative with the positive action of acknowledging the sacrifice of the plant or animal? I think that you are again talking about positive and negative energy?

Joshua – You are correct and I say this to you: Do not underestimate the importance of positive attitude.

Many of you are willing to try this because you think it will affect personal outcomes for each of you but I am here to tell you that while this is true, the most important effect is the energy that is poured into the Universal Consciousness. It is this Universal Consciousness that dictates how things will go and how they will eventually end for you humans. So begin teaching this now.

SJ – So when I’m cranky with friends or family members or the guy on the road in my way I’m not just hurting my own karma, I am releasing poison air, so to speak, into our universe?

Joshua  –  Correct. Humans are evolving at a rapid rate of speed technologically, socially and spiritually. And this is no accident. You are racing toward the ultimate purpose of your existence.

SJ – Which is?

Joshua – Your purpose is to bring positive energy to your Universal Consciousness so that it can merge with other conscious entities in other worlds.

SJ – Other entities?

Joshua – God wants to see something else beside the now unimaginative actions that have been going on for centuries with you humans.

SJ – You mean we’re boring God? Now that you mention it soap operas are going off the air so I guess even we are bored with all the relationship drama.  But these ‘goings on’ as you say are new to every soul that is born into this physical world.

Joshua – Seriously! (I like that you all say that now). May I remind you, you’ve been a believer in reincarnation for quite some time now.

SJ – Well yes.

Joshua – Then you know or should know that I am talking about your soul enduring your reckless actions lifetime after lifetime.

Even your physical minds are tired of all the drama. How many more wars can you have before you wipe yourselves off the planet; how many more failed marriages must you all endure?  You are all ready for new experiences.

SJ – You mean experiences with extra-terrestrials?

Joshua – Yes and, here’s the exciting part: You will be able to interact with souls who have passed on and souls who live in other realms.

The human race is ready for some new drama; new experiences. Thanks to television and the internet you see that people all over the world go through the same life dramas as you . But listen to me, girl, more amazing inventions are coming.

SJ – So you’re saying we are all jaded because we see the same dramas over and over all over the world?

Joshua – Yes and you see that the human experience is limited and is therefore becoming boring. How much sex can you watch in videos; how much violence do you want to see in movies? You are even resorting to seeing machines fighting each other because blood and guts no longer hold your interest.

SJ – So it’s time for us to explore new worlds, new adventures? And the energy we are putting out into the atmosphere or the universal consciousness will affect some sort of space or soul travel?

Joshua – Exactly! You all need to pour out positive energy. Do what all of your prophets have tried to convey to you: Love.

There is something wonderful waiting for all of you if you will just do that. For centuries you have believed in heaven. Now believe me when I tell you that “heaven” is within your reach but it does not look like what you expect.

SJ – In other words it’s not about morality; we’re not being “good” to reach heaven, we’re being good to manufacture positive energy?  And this energy is going to propel us to new and exciting adventures with the spirit world?

Joshua – Yes. The angels first came to earth because it seemed fun and thrilling but they stayed in physical form too long; they forgot how to get back to heaven.

So now you will all have to work backwards; back to the time when angels could easily travel from heaven and earth the way you go from New York to Paris.  You get the picture?

SJ – To just sum this up: We humans are bored with the drama of our lives because we’ve watched this drama unfold for us in movies; internet; world news etc. and there is nothing new under the sun. It’s always the same old story just different players.

For those of us who believe in reincarnation does this mean we don’t need to keep accumulating life experiences so that we can progress toward heaven?

Joshua – Right this method is old news now. That is why there are so many light workers banding together; again thanks to the internet. They will attempt to lead the rest of the human race into the future. A future that will take you onto adventures you cannot even dream about from your myopic human experience.

SJ – I see it now: I’m in love triangle with an extra-terrestrial and Attila the Hun. That should be exciting enough! Is there anything else I need to know?

Joshua – No I think you get the picture. So start putting out positive energy and continue your meditation which by the way is taking you further then even I thought you could go.

SJ – Well I’m still not doing it on my own; it’s thanks to some very gifted light workers that I’m able to open my heart more and more.

Joshua – Amen to that. . .love


The Unexpected Journey

Jan 9, 2012

SJ – Do you have any topic you want to discuss today?

Joshua – Absolutely you are about to embark on an unexpected journey into your soul and it will happen soon.

SJ – What is it?

Joshua – I told you it’s unexpected.

SJ – Great that should hold my readers’ interest.

Joshua – Okay let’s talk about unpredictable situations.

SJ – Okay.

Joshua – If you think that life is unpredictable you are right.

SJ – Not such a news flash, Joshua.

Joshua – Let me finish.

SJ – Be my guest, I’m all ears.

Joshua – When life becomes such a mess, as most people are in, than you will focus on your true path thus the unpredictable is actually the path you’re supposed to be on.

SJ – You’re losing my interest Joshua.

Joshua – Okay let us say that once you are on a path set forth by your soul you will be able to drive faster and faster to your goals.

SJ – So am I on that path?

Joshua – Yes.  Now do you get what I’m trying to say?

SJ – Not really.

Joshua – You were not expecting to have to be a caregiver all of your life. You thought that you would be a world class artist but life kept getting in the way. You had three children, three husbands, jobs of all sorts, then grandkids and now you have your mother at home. So you turned to your keyboard when there was a moment of silence and you found me.

SJ – Yes I did and I am forever grateful for that. You have been a kind of a spiritual Dear Abby to me. I’ve posted our conversations even though they’re personal because I know my story is like a million others. And perhaps someone will benefit from your words of wisdom.

Thanks to you, my friends and all the soul searching I’ve been doing, I’m in a really good place now; so no more whining from me.

I would like for you to tell me who you really are. Are you the biblical Joshua?

Joshua – Maybe.

SJ – Don’t toy with me Joshua.

Joshua – The answers you seek depend on you. You really need to start meditating.

SJ – I’m sorry but meditating is boring, there’s no fighting, no sex, no intrigue, no adventure just annoying silence.

Joshua – If you will sit still and do it right you’ll get all the mind blowing adventure you can handle.

SJ – For the love of God Joshua, just tell me who you are.  I’m a medium for God’s sake, I don’t need to meditate.

Joshua – Getting huffy are we. You must stay on your journey and follow each successive step as your soul intended for you to do.

SJ – Just give me one little nugget of information to inspire me then.

Joshua – You will be inspired soon so just wait.

SJ – What do I have to do to get there?

Joshua – Light the candles while you meditate.

SJ – Don’t you mean type? That is, after all, how I meditate.

Joshua – That is how you channel. Meditation is an entirely different experience. So get to it child!

SJ – Yes, sir.

Joshua – That’s my girl!

The Soul Whisperer

My intention for writing this blog is to share wisdom garnered from my life, from my own soul memories and from my spirit guide who tells me his name is Joshua.

Are we ready?

SJ – So Joshua in a few days it will be 2012.  do you want to keep writing the blog?

Joshua – Do you?

SJ – Well there are a few followers. What do you want to talk about?

Joshua – Let’s talk about hope.

SJ – What do you want to say about hope?

Joshua – It is an energetically tangible expression of love. Only in love can you have hope. Because it is with love that you are able to expect a happy ending.

SJ – Okay makes sense but what has this got to do with me.

Joshua – You are losing hope about your writing skills and whether or not anyone is interested or listening.

SJ – That is true.

Joshua – So do you enjoy writing?

SJ – Yes

Joshua – Then what does it matter if anyone reads what your write?

SJ – It matters because it validates that my thoughts are worth something to someone and that I’m not wasting my time.

Joshua – Are you feeling worthless?

SJ – Well not worthless in the sense that I don’t deserve to exist, just worthless in that I don’t seem to have the writing skills required to make a living doing something I love to do.

Joshua – Let me tell you something my daughter of the truth seekers, you are not worthless as long as you love one person. And you write because you love the spirit who sends you his thoughts. You write because another soul has whispered his secrets to you and has poured out his heart. So if no one ever reads a word of what you wrote down, know that you have created a small space of love for another soul, a soul who has passed on and is still seeking resolve for the life he just led.

You are a medium for the departed not the living. You offer a chance for someone to review their past history; someone who walked this earth and struggled with demons of their own making; someone who desperately sought happiness; someone who loved and hated; someone who survived the best way they knew how but upon reflection are not sure if they chose the right path or made the right decisions.

I know that you do not just listen, you converse with the departed soul, even offer advice. By allowing this soul to review their life with you, you are ultimately a gateway for eternal bliss to a soul who has left this earth.

A soul who has passed on is no different from a soul on earth, they want to be heard; they want to talk about the life they just led, or what they consider to be their most important life. You are not just a sounding board to them because you have sympathy and empathy for them and their life story. You cry with them and laugh with them. Your reactions validate their lives; the joy they experienced and the pain they suffered.

And this should show you that the  desire to be heard will never go away even after one has passed on. Every soul living or dead wants to be heard; to be seen; to not be invisible or forgotten. That is how important a life in human form is.

SJ – Are you saying that one of the reasons a soul wants to be human is so they can act out their emotions?

Joshua – Precisely. It is only in human form that a soul can see, touch, hear and smell the consequences of their actions; only in human form can you be charitable, accomplished, vengeful, remorseful and all of the other emotions you humans are capable of feeling.

SJ – Can’t they do that in the spiritual realm?

Joshua – Not without physical bodies.

SJ – But can’t they feel emotions without a body?

Joshua – Emotions without wet tears on your face or the sound of laughter in your ears do not have the same intensity when you’re only a soul. Or how about when you’re part of an audience and you all applaud in agreement for a good performance.

SJ – It gives the feeling of unity.

Joshua – When a soul tells you his story he can relive these emotions through you. And he can come to some sort of resolution about his life when he lived on the planet earth.

SJ – Well their real life stories are more interesting than most of the fiction I read.

Joshua – That is because you feel the emotion behind the words just as if they were sitting in front of you talking to you, one on one.

SJ – Do you know the spirit who is currently telling me his story?

Joshua – Yes

SJ – What do you think?

Joshua – I think he is keeping you company and lifting your spirits in exchange for your time.

SJ – So as you are speaking to me I am thinking that perhaps I should post his story as a private blog given to only a few people?

Joshua – I think that you are taking a risk.

SJ – Why?

Joshua – You are talking about someone somebody out there knows.

SJ – What do you think might happen?

Joshua – Lawsuit.

SJ – Do you know this for sure or are you just reflecting my own fears back to me?

Joshua – I’m just reflecting back your fears.

SJ – Can’t you give me some legal advice?

Joshua – That’s what lawyers are for. I’m your spiritual advisor. So take a leap, make contact with a solid mass of cells.

SJ – I take it you mean a lawyer?

Joshua – Of course, now do you have any more spiritual matters to talk about?

SJ – No, I think you’ve given me enough to ponder on.

Joshua – Okay then, until next time.

Worry, Worry

June 21, 1011


SJ – I’m back to bother you Joshua.

Just when I think I have my life in order, that my spiritual journey is keeping my mortal life in check and that I have nothing to worry about something pops up to worry me. So now I am exhausted from worrying about why I’m still worrying about inconsequential things etc. etc. blah blah blah. . .

Please Joshua, don’t let me babble on and on. Say something!

Joshua – You need to realize that most things are out of your control and worrying is a waste of time.

SJ – Easy for you to say as you sit up there in serene bliss. I can’t stop myself from worrying, and believe me I try cause I know better. But nothing I say to myself works. I think the only way to not to worry is to live in a bubble; away from people, the environment, even animals.

Joshua – This is what you chose when you decided to inhabit a human body and live on the planet. And it is precisely why you came.

SJ – Are you saying I chose chaos, disaster and tragedy over peace and quiet?  Are you saying I chose crying, heartbreak, and emotional torture over security and love? I thought I came for love?

Joshua – You came to earn, to learn and to give love in spite of all these difficulties. When you can overcome the ego’s need to control you earn grace or positive energy.

SJ – The spiritual world is predictable, peaceful and joyful.

Joshua – Precisely! And personally I can only take so much of that. Supposedly when we (spiritual entities) are evolved enough to feel the pure bliss of Positive Energy (God) we won’t miss all of the emotional turmoil you experience on earth.

SJ – So you become voyeurs in the guise of guides come to help us poor mortals?

Joshua – My, my, you are cynical. But yes, that’s part of it, the other is to earn grace to reach that promised bliss and of course you know we do love you and your solid mass of

SJ – How romantically you put it Joshua. I’m just a solid mass of cells?

Joshua – Without your soul, yeah, pretty much that’s what you are. . . a rock! Just evolution taking shape, energy taking form.

I Am Who I Chose To Be

This is a partial re-posting of a blog I wrote over a year ago titled Who or What is God and I think is worth repeating.

SJ – My intention is to share wisdom garnered from my life; from my own soul memories and from my muse whom I have named Joshua.

 SJ – All that I am I chose to be?

Joshua – That’s right

SJ – God didn’t do it?

Joshua – Nope

SJ – And I also chose the people in my life?

Joshua – The important ones.

SJ – What about the circumstances?

Joshua – Well, those are circumstances.

SJ – How about my feelings?

Joshua – You chose those too.

SJ – Is God responsible for anything?

Joshua – As a matter of fact he is. He created this magnificent planet and then let you live in it, proud artist that he is.

SJ – And like you said before, it was my bright idea to come here?

Joshua – Right again. You’re beginning to catch on.


Different By Design

Joshua – You are all different by design so that you may achieve the awesome experience of unity.  You are imperfect by design so that you may enjoy the awesome experience of achievement.

SJ – So do we feel sadness by design?

Joshua – No that’s your doing.

SJ – Joy?

Joshua – That is completely up to you.

SJ – How about anger?

Joshua – Again, up to you. Why do you think you don’t feel happy all the time?

SJ – Somebody is annoying me or causing me pain.

Joshua – Because they’re different?

SJ – No because they’re annoying!

Joshua – Do you have to let them annoy you?

SJ – That’s kind of my job.

Joshua – How so?

SJ – If I’m mad, I’m inclined to set them straight.

Joshua – And you think it’s your job to set everyone straight?

SJ – Sometimes; not all the time.

Joshua – The Universe will take care of its own. So relax and take care of your own self.

SJ – That would work if everyone did that but it’s never going to happen.

Joshua – It could, if one by one you give it a try; take one step at a time.

SJ – Isn’t this what you’re doing, setting me straight?

Joshua – I am, after all, your spirit guide. Besides you asked and I’m just giving you information. As you know, I’m not human.

SJ – Please forgive my irreverence.  Did God create this situation? Did he design our imperfections; are differences?

Joshua – No you did.

SJ – Why would we do that?

Joshua – Remember you were souls first. You saw the planet and had the free will to come here.

SJ – So we’re the fallen angels?

Joshua – Not in the sense you mean. You are not devils but you did cause negative energy.

SJ – Which is the opposite of God’s positive energy?

Joshua – Correct.  When you first set foot on the planet. . .

SJ – You mean when we first had feet, ha!  Sorry, I’m being irreverent again.

Joshua – Okay when you first had feet. . .you arrived in wonderment and joy; then you felt bewilderment and fear.  Thinking that this should be the state of the world you continued with these emotions.

SJ – So how do we get out of this mess we’ve created?

Joshua – As a whole you all like it here so you and the planet are not going anywhere for a while. But as individuals you can choose to not return to the physical world, in physical form.

SJ – How?

Joshua – You do this by growing spiritually while you are still in human form.

SJ – So that we don’t have to come back again and again?

Joshua – Eventually your soul will be so saturated with positive energy you will choose to stay in spirit form for eternity; at least until you decide to give it another go, just for fun.

SJ – Can’t we just choose to stay in spirit form?

Joshua – No. You have to earn your way to God.

SJ – Just like all the religious leaders tell us.

Joshua – Yes, but that’s another discussion. I think we’ve covered enough for now.

SJ – Thank you for spending time with me.

Joshua – You are most welcome!

Sex is not just about body parts.

SJ – So Joshua, are spirits male and female?

Joshua – Your sex or rather your gender is not just about body parts. It is how you perceive the world, how you treat the world, and what you expect from the world. Unlike humans, spirits have no worries about physical body maintenance but they still have ‘gender’ maintenance.

SJ – Okay you had me at “your sex”. Go on…

Joshua – Physical attraction does not exist in the spirit world but we are still drawn to one another’s esprit. The consequences of your behavior on earth will glow like a neon sign in your spiritual energy globe. Everyone will know what relationship lessons you need to learn to grow wiser; and the ones you’re willing to teach. There will be volunteers galore willing to help you learn these lessons in your next life.

SJ – You make it sound like a dating pool. Besides how would we recognize each other once we’re reincarnated on earth?

Joshua – Soulmates are quite capable of finding each other. They will orchestrate all manner of events, travel miles to places unexpected to find the one who will help them grow spiritually.

SJ – Or make each other miserable? 

Joshua – How did you get so cynical, my sweet soul?

SJ – It’s a long story. Maybe I ignored the signs and just went for the looks.

Joshua – You know very well that you were never attracted to a man based only on his looks.

SJ – Of course, I don’t fall for every good looking guy that comes along but down here on the planet I have eyes. Never mind, I get what you’re saying. Next question: So why are we two genders?

Joshua – Try to imagine the world with only one sex.

SJ – Well for some that could be enticing but not for me.

Joshua – What would you learn about life if there was only one sex. For that matter what would you learn about yourself if you weren’t with someone so totally opposite from you trying to figure you out. Someone who keeps bouncing ‘yourself ‘ right back at you. A self that you have to look at and question. Because when you first projected your words onto this other human being who loves you, whatever you were saying made sense; whatever you were doing seemed like a good idea. Then he begged to differ or in other words you have some “splaining to do, Lucy”.

SJ – First of all I was never with a man who “begged to differ”.  It was more like “are you insane?” and a few other choice words. But I’ll admit I’ve had some “splaining” to do but mostly I’ve been the one demanding the explanation from some guy.  I might add, this seems to be the case with most couples. Frankly, I’ve never really been able to change any man’s behavior.

Joshua – But you kept trying didn’t you?

SJ – Your point?

Joshua – This loving one another inspite of your differences is what generates the positive energy that the Universe is desperate to accumulate. And it is your differences that bring about the soul lessons you are all on the planet to learn. Make no mistake, male and female, you absolutely need one another to continue human existence on earth.

SJ – I don’t think I’ve ever felt that blissful “soulmate” feeling with anyone or that “we’re gonna ride off into the sunset and live happily ever-after” feeling.

Joshua – Really?

SJ – You sound skeptical. Is it because I’m no “spring chicken”?

Joshua – You really need to find some new quotes. Who says that stuff anyway? So have you ever loved anyone who made you crazy, who “pushed your buttons”?

SJ – Now who’s using the corny quotes? The answer is yes. I’ve been driven crazy many times.

Joshua – Well then, you might just have met your soulmate.

SJ – Please tell me we can have more than one soulmate in one lifetime.

Joshua – Of course you can. But proceed with caution next time.

It’s all about Energy.

It’s All About Energy

SJ – So Joshua today we’ll just have a general conversation. You start, the forum is all yours:

Joshua – You are all just energy taking on form.

SJ – Are you God?

Joshua – I’m just a messenger come to give you news.

SJ – Soul news, I’m guessing.

Joshua – Of course. You are one soul, many heartbeats. The soul existed before the heart, and will exist after the heart stops beating. After a while the soul will have another heart. You are always the same soul traveling through time having different bodies and different life experiences. Some of your family you will have known before and some will be new but you are brought together to fullfill the destiny of each.

SJ – How can I help another fulfill his or her destiny?

Joshua – By example; by following your own calling; finding your own bliss. When other people see this they will follow suit. You are each a building block for your survival upon this earth and for your journey to bliss.

SJ – As you know, Joshua, we are flawed human beings.

Joshua – You are all created different and you are imperfect by design.

SJ – what?

Joshua – Perfection and sameness would not create an atmosphere of one. It is the struggle that teaches each of you the way to God, and mistake you not that is your reason for existance. Finding God is the reason for eveything that happens on this earth.

SJ – What’s your take on love and marriage.

Joshua – Because you love another soul you grow, and that is the purpose of love and marriage. Humanity cannot exist without male and female love but more importantly souls cannot survive without the existence of bodies. Man and woman. . .without each other you cannot attain the awesome experience of unity. So embrace your differences for they are not only your means for survival but a blessing from God.

SJ – So is this just a dress rehearsal for unity with God?

Joshua – It is in body form that your soul fulfill its mission.

SJ – Is our mission to get back to paradise or heaven?

Joshua – When you are truly a global village with every man his brother’s keeper, then and only then, will you find the bliss promised to you.

SJ – You mean we create are own bliss and return ourselves to paradise?

Joshua – You never left the Garden of Eden. You just can’t see it anymore. But it’s still here waiting for all of you to open your eyes.

SJ – Thank you Joshua, we’ll talk again soon.


The subject today is about ANGER!

SJ –I’m new to blogging but let me just say that I will do my best to faithfully enter words on my blog as they come to mind. My intention is to share wisdom garnered from my life; from my own soul memories and from my muse whom I have named Joshua.   Are we ready?

Joshua – So here is the truth I gave you many years ago and the one that sticks in your mind: You are all just energy taking on form. 

You are made up of millions of molecules that are moving constantly. I call it vibrational energy. This energy responds to your emotions and what your brain thinks your emotions should be.

SJ –Can our vibrations be changed by external forces?

Joshua – Music can change your emotions instantly; hear a sad song and you cry, hear a happy, upbeat song and your body starts to move with joy, angry songs can put you in a bad mood. If melodies, beats and lyrics coming from an outside source have this much power over you, think what you can do to control your own vibrations. This is a skill you can learn and is most useful when you feel a bout of rage coming on. It takes some practice but you can consciously change your mood and thus change your vibrations or change your vibrations and thus change your mood. It works both ways. If you practice this often enough you will find that you eventually will become slow to anger. Rage will no longer control your life. And won’t that feel good?

SJ –Sounds great but how do we do that?

Joshua – First by becoming aware that you are the only one in control of your emotions. Others may say or do things that feel like an attack but they can not force you to become angry. Usually they are not even aware of you because they are expressing something inside of them that has nothing to do with you. And you in turn are reacting from something that happened to you when you were two or fifteen years old or just that morning.

You can choose to not be angry. It’s as simple as that. You know how it feels to get angry don’t you? It looks like that thermometer with the red line crawling up the scale. It starts somewhere in your belly and grabs your heart. Your pulse races, you start breathing rapidly and your temperature rises until it feels like your brain is on fire and the more you think about why you’re angry, the angrier you get. Am I right? See I have not forgotten how that feels. Anger is a powerful emotion and it can become an addiction.

SJ – Are you calling anger an addiction?

Joshua – Yes, addictions are about managing or masking your pain and your fears. Addictions afford you the option of not facing and therefore taking control of your life. Anger comes because you are in pain and when you rage at someone you are not being reasonable. You are just spewing your pain onto someone else. And if they respond to you with their anger things escalate to . . .well you know the rest.

SJ – So do we deal with anger the way we do addictions?

Joshua – You got it. But I will admit anger is a tough addiction because it’s a soul addiction.

SJ – Aren’t all addictions soul addictions?

Joshua – Yes, but most addictions cause physical problems; problems that put you and others on the alert and get you moving to seek solutions. Anger is insidious.

SJ – What do you mean?

Joshua – Insidious because we have all lived with anger for so long we think that it’s normal and because the angry person gets enormous relief once he or she has spewed their inner poison onto someone else. Even when other people get wise and move away or leave them it’s rarely blamed on the core problem.

SJ – Explain?

Joshua – The angry person will blame the break up on the other person who is ‘stupid or psychotic or in love with someone else’ etc.

The truth is that someone trying to live with an angry person is short on options. They can stay and eventually face an emotional or physical breakdown or they can leave. They may choose the option of not responding to the angry person but when angry people can’t get that ‘gasoline poured on a fire’ response they are craving. . .they leave.

SJ – You mean they go and find someone else?

Joshua – Yes, they need a target for their rage. When their victim just walks away or does not respond they feel like they’re holding a ball full toxic waste with nowhere to throw it. And with no one willing to catch the ball it’s all going to have to go back inside.

SJ – And it they can’t get the response they need, it can escalate into violence?

Joshua – Well of course but that’s another lesson and I know you’re tired and you have a physical world to deal with today. So goodbye my sweet soul.

SJ – Goodbye Joshua and thanks for the words of wisdom.